Archive | July, 2012

Teachers: Don’t They See The Signs?

31 Jul
English: A special education teacher assists o...

English: A special education teacher assists one of her students. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

“I can’t go, I’m sick.”

Sound familiar?

We’ve all made up excuses in one form or another to get out of going to school. One of the main reasons? To avoid being bullied.

School is a place where you meet the same people every single day. Naturally, it is also the place where you come face to face with your bullies every single day. The cycle of constantly being bullied at school, irregardless of the nature of bullying, is one reason why some students choose to stay at home, a place where they can feel safe.

This safe haven leaves such a sense of security that students being bullied fall ‘sick’ more often, choosing to stay home rather than face the torture that comes with going to school. Parents, of course, would be concerned for their child. Well, most of them anyway. When they hear the words “I’m sick”, parents would be more concerned over their child’s physical well being, so focused on the child’s supposed ‘illness’ that they fail to miss the signs and pick up that it is merely an excuse to miss school. Teachers, on the other hand, should know better.

A student missing a couple of days worth of schooling throughout the year is normal. Perhaps they were sick or there could be some personal issues at home that needed to be dealt with. However, when a student is consistently absent far more than what is considered normal, teachers should be able to pick up that something is wrong.

I understand that a teacher’s job is mainly to educate but when it becomes so obvious that something is wrong with a particular student, shouldn’t they do something about it? Perhaps talk to the parents about their concerns or maybe even speak privately to the student in a caring manner to encourage a response as to why the student is constantly absent?

Instead, from my own experience, some teachers don’t seem to care. They are there simply to teach and if a student misses school, it is their own fault. Some teachers don’t even hide their annoyance with these students, choosing to attack them publicly by making them feel guilty for missing school. Don’t they realise that this makes the student feel worse? Not only do they have to face their bullies but now they have to face their teachers as well?

That being said, I understand that it is a hard job. There are on average twenty or so students per class and it can become hectic when you are teaching five to six classes a day. Teaching is a tough job, no doubt about it, but students, especially younger ones, don’t know any better. They don’t understand the frustrations a teacher feels and instead take on their teacher’s behaviour toward them as another incident of bullying, forcing them to feel that they have no one to turn to.

It may be hard to distinguish the reasons why a student misses school but when it comes to bullying it is fairly obvious, as when the student is in school, they:

1. Tend to stick with one or two close friends or sit by themselves. They isolate themselves from others.

2. Rarely participate. They are so quiet that sometimes no one realises that they are actually present in class. They are invisible.

3. Often, despite the weather being warm, wear long sleeved clothing to either hide their scars/ bruises, hide their body, or in some way feel the extra clothing helps them hide themselves, blending in with others.

These are the common signs that I’ve picked up on both as a victim of bullying and as an observer (I isolated myself in school and in some way, this honed my observation skills). When the signs are clear, shouldn’t a teacher, as the adult and authority figure, pick up on it and take action? Or is that too much to ask from a teacher, who’s only job is to teach?

What do you think? Should teachers take a more active role in helping bullies and the bullied?

Write your thoughts below. I’d love to hear them.

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30 Jul

Great article once again! I read somewhere that your heart actually stops for a second or so when it feels intense pain (Whether or not that’s true, I don’t know).

Broken hearts are the hardest to handle. It’s sad that some people become so numb after experiencing something like this that they harm themselves to feel again.

Suzie the Single Dating Diva

As most of you may have noticed, I haven’t been my happy bubbly self lately.  You have also probably noticed me speaking about having a recent broken heart.  Well that I do … quite broken actually.  I would say probably one of the deepest breaks I have had in a long while.  Why is the cut so deep? Well, it’s not really about the love aspect of the relationship (men come and go), it’s the deep friendship that is now in a million pieces because of something that could have been avoided with just a bit of honesty.  We were very close friends before we decided to take things to another level.  So that is why my heart is broken … loss of love, possible loss of a close friend and hope shattered.  He was honestly the ONE person I would have NEVER expected this from, which is why it…

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Dear Readers

30 Jul

I realise that I haven’t been very active on this blog lately. Work and study commitments are to blame.  Apologies to my regular readers!

While I haven’t been posting much of my own material over the past few days, I have come across a few posts by other bloggers that I thought deserved some attention. This explains the number of re-blogs.

So, I hope you’ve enjoyed reading the re-blogs. The good news is that I’m currently working on a new post which I hope to publish sometime soon. No pressure 😛

Let the suspense begin.

Till then,

D.

30 Jul

Happy Birthday! This was such a nice story to read. Things do turn out for the best and despite past struggles, it will be okay. It does get better.

joiningtheliving

Wow. At 4:12 a.m., I’ll officially be 16.

I feel so freakin’ old. I’m having one of those moments, I guess. Just thinking about where I am right now amazes me.

  • I’m about to be 16.
  • I’m going into my junior year of high school.
  • I’m involved in more activities than I know what to do with.
  • I currently have 4 Honors classes in my schedule for next year.
  • I’m somehow managing to keep my GPA above a 4.0.
  • I’m going to college in TWO YEARS.
  • I can say now that I’m a lesbian without hiding it from anyone (for the most part).
  • I’m in therapy, and my anxiety/depression is actually getting better.
  • I’m freakin’ happy to be alive.

Who I was even last year is COMPLETELY different from who I am now. It all sort of seems insane when I think about it. I didn’t know I could do…

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28 Jul

When we think of bullying, we think of young people and school aged children mostly. We forget that senior citizens get bullied as well. More people should be aware of this. This was a good read and great post.

Meaningful Media

Two days ago, the world’s collective stomach turned when a video capturing a group of teenage boys launching a vicious verbal attack on a 68 year old bus monitor went viral.  The video defines repulsive, but, it may have ultimately helped more than it harmed.  It has resulted in worldwide contributions towards a “vacation fund” (soon to be renamed “retirement fund”) for the victim, Karen Klein which is climbing steadily towards 300 thousand dollars, and has brought the issue of senior citizen bullying to the forefront of public discourse.

Right now, the question lingers, why in the world would these boys act so ruthlessly towards a senior citizen?  More importantly, what is being done to address the  complex problem of senior bullying?

Experts say as many as 1 in 5 seniors are victims of bullying”

Senior bullying has several faces, making it a tough opponent to tackle.  Scenarios…

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Bad Days.

28 Jul

mynstlife

Maybe someone out there, you perhaps, is having a bad day. Maybe the world feels like it is falling in on its self. Just remember everyone has bad days. I do. My mom does. Sometimes my whole family on the same day is having a bad day. But I am going to tell you a secret. You can’t tell anyone. Ok? It isn’t always going to be this way.

Yep, that’s my wonderful secret. Not much of a secret. I know. But it is still true. Sometimes when I have bad days, I stop what I am doing and go and watch Lord of the Rings, Star Wars, or Harry Potter. Or I read a book that I know is good. Why do I do that? I do it because; I want this bad day to blow over and start a new one tomorrow. Some may say that I…

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26 Jul

What saddens me most about this is that it’s not surprising. Family pressure often is a lot more stressful than pressure from society.

A Desi New Yorker

Depression in South Asian Teens

The number one cause of death in young South Asian females is suicide.

Check out the rest of the statistics at this link. The cultural risk factors are not to be taken lightly.

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