Seeking Help Is Not Easy

5 Jul
English: Bullying on IRFE in March 5, 2007, th...

English: Bullying on IRFE in March 5, 2007, the first class day. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most anti-bullying websites and other resources often state that if you’re being bullied, the first thing you need to do is talk to someone about it and get help. Having been bullied in the past, I know that this is easier said than done. Often we don’t even realise we are being bullied till much later and for some, the thought of talking to someone is daunting.

Bullying comes in so many forms that it is difficult to pick out what is bullying and what is simply just harmless teasing. Are you just being too sensitive? Is this happening to others or are you the only target? At what point does teasing become taunting? These may often be questions that come to mind that prevent someone from seeking help as for some, reporting something as bullying when it actually is not could have a negative effect and could cause feelings of foolishness. Similarly, we learned from a young age that telling on others could lead us into trouble. That, in it self, may make the idea of talking to someone hard.

Depending on the kind of bullying you’re experiencing, not many ‘adults’ or those in authority will take allegations of bullying seriously if they do not perceive those actions as ‘bullying’. On the other hand, some may fear portraying themselves as being weak by asking for help.

There are various circumstances that often prevent victims from seeking help and others should understand that. It isn’t easy to open up about your feelings, yet alone when you’re being hurt by someone else. It could just be pride or it could be fear of what could result from ‘telling’. It could really be anything and unless you’ve been through it, it is not something anyone can really understand and make statements about.

That being said, seeking help sooner rather than later is always the best thing to do when the option is available. Even if it means talking to a friend or seeking help from an online support forum. Talking about it or expressing your feelings through some sort of outlet beats bottling it up, as often resentment and pain keeps growing over time until such point that we just explode.

So, if you’re finding it difficult to cope with something, my suggestion is to pick up a new hobby that acts as an outlet for all your rage, pain and anything else that you feel. Often, you’d be amazed by how much you can achieve by it. You could be the next big star if writing and making music or drama/ acting is your outlet. By turning all your anger and pain into passion, it could lead to something good. At the very least, you will feel like a load has been lifted and perhaps feel better about yourself.

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2 Responses to “Seeking Help Is Not Easy”

  1. teamsprigeo July 17, 2012 at 10:26 #

    Reblogged this on Report Bullying with Sprigeo.

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