From Introvert To Extrovert: My Social Experiment

15 Aug

I’ve reached the point in my life where I’m just so sick and tired of being an introvert. Don’t get me wrong, being an introvert is completely fine. There’s absolutely nothing wrong with it but it’s just not me, the real me I mean.

Who am I really then? Well, I recently went through some old Facebook chat conversations and one particular thing that stood out to me was the way I ‘spoke’ online, which was totally different from the way I am outside of cyberspace, in reality. It’s almost as if I have two separate personalities. First, there’s the quiet, introverted, almost invisible girl who stands in the corner and socialises only with people she knows. Second, there’s the witty, nothing phases me girl who just can’t stop chatting to anyone and everyone who will listen, or rather, in this case read. The latter, I realised, was exactly how I used to be ten years ago, before everything just got too much. I wasn’t always the shy girl. I used to be the fun, bubbly, happy-go-lucky kind of girl who made friends instantly.

Knowing that I once was an extrovert must mean that those characteristics are still within me somewhere, right? I believe that they lie dormant deep inside and need some coaxing out. So I’ve decided to challenge myself. Call it another social experiment, if you will. My aim is mainly to test the theory of “mind over matter”.  To see if the power of the mind really can control and influence the body.

Here are the challenges I have set for myself:

1. Say ‘hi’ to someone new everyday. If there’s a positive reaction from the other party, engage in light conversation. (I will try my best to do this every single day but if it’s not possible, every other day still counts)

2. Make sure my voice is heard. This can be either by asking questions in class (which I’ve never been able to do) or by simply saying ‘hi’ as per challenge 1.

3. Smile at people who make eye contact. I have a tendency to dart my eyes away immediately whenever I make eye contact with someone and never look back. It’s not a conscious thing but just a habit that I now wish to break.

4. Laugh, not just at something funny but at myself when I make a mistake or do something silly. Laughing at myself will hopefully train me into not taking everything so seriously. (I laugh at myself and at some very silly things quite often so this shouldn’t be a problem for me)

5. Dance. This will most likely take place in the privacy of my own bedroom when no one is at home but it should still work. Dancing, I feel, regardless of form, will help me be comfortable with my body. Dancing the goofy chicken dance will also help me to lighten up.

That’s 5 challenges for now. Number 4 and 5 shouldn’t be too hard to handle but the rest may be a mission. So over the next few days or week, depending on how things go, I will post updates on how I’m going with the challenge.

If you have any thoughts or ideas for more challenges to help me and others who want to break free from being introverted, please comment below or e-mail me. I will, at the very least, give it a try.

And so the experiment begins. Wish me luck 🙂



7 Responses to “From Introvert To Extrovert: My Social Experiment”

  1. Daniel Wright August 15, 2012 at 22:17 #

    Lets go dancing one day? I dance like this guy >> no lies. Many friends and family believe this person has stolen my moves. Don’t restrict yourself to your bedroom. It will help with 1, 2, 3 and 4!

    • throughawindshield August 15, 2012 at 22:33 #

      Haha, baby steps. Let me start at home first. I don’t think my dance moves are acceptable for public viewing 😉 It’s more like this:

      • Daniel Wright August 16, 2012 at 00:17 #

        If a tree falls in the Forrest and their is no one to hear it, does it still make a noise? If Dhayana dances in her room alone and no one see’s it, does she really dance?

      • throughawindshield August 16, 2012 at 11:45 #

        That’s the beauty of this challenge. No one has to see it. This is something I have to do using my own power of determination. Dancing privately is all about becoming more comfortable with my body because at home is where I judge myself the most.

        At the end of the day, the aim of this challenge is to become more confident in myself and not worry about others. When I let others’ opinions matter to me, that’s when I fail.

  2. attemptingchange August 21, 2012 at 12:03 #

    Browsing through various blogs and posts, the title of this one caught my attention. I was hooked by the first sentence and am currently feeling the EXACT same way. Tired of being an introvert…especially because I don’t think its the “real me.” Your self-challenge sounds awesome and based on “Day 1,” it seems like things will go well in your journey!!

    Being in the same boat, I am currently attempting to accentuate the extrovert in me as well by doing the 101 in 1001 challenge. It’s a relatively new project for me and I am still working on changing some of my goals to be more in line with what I want to get out of it, but it may be something you would be interested in as well!!

    • throughawindshield August 21, 2012 at 17:47 #

      Hi, thanks for commenting! It’s been a couple of days since “Day 1” so I have some updates as to how I’m going. It’s a lot harder than I thought as the challenges were supposed to be pretty simple. I’m a firm believer of mind over matter so I’m determined to achieve my goals 🙂

      What does the 101 in 1001 challenge involve? I am definitely be interested in giving this a go! Anything to help coax out my inner extrovert 😛


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