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Beware of the Wolf in Sheep’s Clothing

13 Sep

Imagine this. You meet someone and you click. You click in a way that you actually believe you could become friends with that person. For a few months, things go well. You chat about life, love, anything and everything in between. You’re most definitely friends. Then things change. The person starts to pressure you into doing something you’re not comfortable doing. You proceed with numerous attempts of telling them you’re not interested in those things and that even though you are both different, you have enough in common to maintain the friendship. The person refuses to accept this and starts to pressure you even more. Things turn ugly and your friendship is threatened.

Part of you feels that you should compromise or maybe even give in to the pressure to save what you believed was a good friendship. Was it really a good friendship though? You start to notice the subtle hints of the person’s true nature. They had been slowly playing you. Settling for a simple friendship to get you to trust them, to open up to them and when they had enough on you, things started to turn. The person was never a friend. They had an agenda all along.

Should you compromise your values and morals for the sake of a friendship? Should you do something you’re not comfortable with to fit in with this person, to save the friendship and to perhaps fit in with their social circle? Is it worth it? The answer is simply, NO.

There will always be genuine people out there who will truly be your friends but equally, there are several people out there who will always have an agenda. True friends will never ask you to go beyond your morals or ask you to do something you are not comfortable with. Friends who do, who then attempt to threaten you or make you feel unworthy of friendship are not your friends. You don’t have to change yourself for anyone other than yourself. If you’re not comfortable doing something, don’t do it. If you lose the friend, so be it because you’ll make new ones. Friends come and go. Some, last a lifetime. If you have genuine friends who you trust, who would never ask you to compromise yourself then consider yourself very lucky.

Remember this, there will always be someone out there with an agenda but you don’t have to comply with their needs. You don’t owe anyone anything other than yourself. Keep those who are genuine close but stay away from the wolves in sheep’s clothing.


Normal Is Boring

30 Jun

What is ‘normal’? Each and every one of us has a different idea of what constitutes being ‘normal’. Yet, society has determined for us what ‘normal’ means. In trying to fit in and be considered ‘normal’ we often lose ourselves as we change who we really are. We hide our true selves behind the mask of conformity, following the herd as mindless sheep with no sense of self and identity. We become just one of many, blended in to the masses. So in other words, being normal is, essentially, to be like everyone else and that is just plain boring, don’t you think?

Seeing that I work at the movies/cinemas and am surrounded by movie posters, I seem to gain a lot of my inspiration from poster taglines. Yesterday, I came across the tagline, “You don’t become a hero by being normal” on the “ParaNorman” movie poster.  When I thought about it, I realised that being normal and blending in to the crowd often gets you unnoticed. You become just another body that takes up space. You’re nothing special, you’re not different.

Think of Superman who wears his underpants on the outside or Spider-Man who wears skin tight spandex. Super-heroes wear ridiculous costumes that are bold and unique to identify themselves. In doing so, they separate themselves from the masses and guess what? People look up to them. Now in reality we don’t have a Kryptonian flying around donning his red and blue suit or a masked web slinger crawling up skyscrapers. Instead we have the likes of Lady Gaga with her outrageous costumes, Katy Perry with her bright coloured hair and Tom Cruise who jumps up and down other people’s couches. They didn’t get where they are by being normal. They stepped out of the norm and took advantage of being unique. In fact, they thrived on their differences. By departing from society’s standards of what is normal, they became idols.

Now, I’m not saying that being normal is a bad thing. It’s not. It’s just that being normal, being like everyone else, is boring. How are people going to identify you when you’re exactly the same as someone else? Being different however is a little more adventurous and a whole lot more satisfying. By being different and unique, you’re able to dress the way you want, eat whatever you choose, be attracted to whomever your heart desires. There are no barriers and in that sense, you end up being much happier.

So as the tagline said, “You don’t become a hero by being normal”. Being normal is boring. You shouldn’t feel upset by the fact that you’re different from everyone else. You should enjoy it and make the most of it. Enjoy being unique. Whether you’re tall or short, fat or skinny, straight or not, everyone in their own way is special and that should be celebrated. For those who feel that they are dealing with being different alone, fear not, you’re not and never will be alone.

What are your thoughts? Do you agree/disagree that being normal is boring?