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Anonymous Asked #2

18 Sep

Anonymous asked: I dunno. I’m just so tired of everything. I can’t be bothered trying. It’s too hard. All I want to do is sleep forever and never wake up. That way I never have to deal with all of this anymore. I dunno, I guess I’m just screwed up but I can’t help feeling this way.

This conversation had been going on for a few days and let me tell you, there’s a lot going on in this sweet person’s life. Things that actually hurts me to read. Above is just a snippet of what I received in my inbox today and it definitely needs addressing.

First off, if you are reading this Anonymous, you are not screwed up. Being tired is something everyone faces at some point. Not the ‘I’m tired because I didn’t get enough sleep’ kind of tired but the ‘I’m so sick of trying so hard’ kind of tired. I’m sure we’ve all been at that point, whether we’ve tried so hard to get that promotion at work or to do extremely well at school. For some, maybe it’s pure exhaustion from struggling every single day to eat healthier and exercise when it’s much easier to lay around in front of the TV eating junk food. Everything in life involves hard work and yes, at some point, some of us may just hit breaking point where we think “screw it, I just want this to end”. The reality though, is that people move on. They realise they’re exhausted and go about changing their approach. Maybe it involves taking a few days off and tending to their own needs or perhaps looking at things from a different perspective. It’s okay to feel ‘tired’. It’s okay to want the pain to end. The important thing to remember is to never give up! Someone once told me that pain is a sign that we are alive. It’s how we overcome the adversity that makes us who we are.

A lot of people don’t realise that suicide does not mean the person is wanting to end their life. No, it’s not about ending life. It’s about ending the pain. When I read that you wanted to never wake up, my first thought was that you must be in so much pain that you are willing to do something so drastic. That’s what it is in the end isn’t it? Suicide is about ending the pain but it is never an option. I know that it may seem like an easy way out, to stop the hurt you’re feeling but it’s also permanent. Once you take your own life, there’s no going back. You’ll never know if something fantastic was right around the corner, an opportunity waiting to happen. You’ll never know that your pain was actually only temporary and would go away in time. Why do something so permanent to fix a temporary problem?

Life is tough and bad things do happen. Some of the things that are happening in the world today are despicable but there’s also so much good in the world too. Pain does go away, eventually. It may not be an easy process and it will take a long time, but the scars and wounds will heal. The thing to remember is that everything you’re going through now will only make you stronger but you need to keep fighting.

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Seeking Help Is Not Easy

5 Jul
English: Bullying on IRFE in March 5, 2007, th...

English: Bullying on IRFE in March 5, 2007, the first class day. (Photo credit: Wikipedia)

Most anti-bullying websites and other resources often state that if you’re being bullied, the first thing you need to do is talk to someone about it and get help. Having been bullied in the past, I know that this is easier said than done. Often we don’t even realise we are being bullied till much later and for some, the thought of talking to someone is daunting.

Bullying comes in so many forms that it is difficult to pick out what is bullying and what is simply just harmless teasing. Are you just being too sensitive? Is this happening to others or are you the only target? At what point does teasing become taunting? These may often be questions that come to mind that prevent someone from seeking help as for some, reporting something as bullying when it actually is not could have a negative effect and could cause feelings of foolishness. Similarly, we learned from a young age that telling on others could lead us into trouble. That, in it self, may make the idea of talking to someone hard.

Depending on the kind of bullying you’re experiencing, not many ‘adults’ or those in authority will take allegations of bullying seriously if they do not perceive those actions as ‘bullying’. On the other hand, some may fear portraying themselves as being weak by asking for help.

There are various circumstances that often prevent victims from seeking help and others should understand that. It isn’t easy to open up about your feelings, yet alone when you’re being hurt by someone else. It could just be pride or it could be fear of what could result from ‘telling’. It could really be anything and unless you’ve been through it, it is not something anyone can really understand and make statements about.

That being said, seeking help sooner rather than later is always the best thing to do when the option is available. Even if it means talking to a friend or seeking help from an online support forum. Talking about it or expressing your feelings through some sort of outlet beats bottling it up, as often resentment and pain keeps growing over time until such point that we just explode.

So, if you’re finding it difficult to cope with something, my suggestion is to pick up a new hobby that acts as an outlet for all your rage, pain and anything else that you feel. Often, you’d be amazed by how much you can achieve by it. You could be the next big star if writing and making music or drama/ acting is your outlet. By turning all your anger and pain into passion, it could lead to something good. At the very least, you will feel like a load has been lifted and perhaps feel better about yourself.

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